Sehar Khan, UKCP Accredited Psychotherapist

Sehar Khan

Bexleyheath DA6 English
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Sehar Khan, UKCP Accredited Psychotherapist

Sehar Khan

Bexleyheath DA6 English
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My Approach

I work from an integrative approach, which means that your individual needs will be at the centre of our work and I will integrate any other theoretical approaches if required to best suit your circumstances.

About Me

Speaking with a therapist can remove the pressure and expectation that might occur if you speak with someone close to you. There can be many reasons we don’t feel able to talk to the people around us, we don’t want to bring them down, and we might think they may not understand us or that they will want to fix things rather than listen. Maybe you don't feel any enjoyment anymore or you worry that you won't be the same person again. Maybe you feel stuck. If any of this is familiar you may also feel isolated and lonely with how you’re feeling.

Are you dealing with an unexpected situation out of your control? Do you feel like your life has changed beyond recognition or expectation? Do you feel like you don't know how to manage your situation and don't know where to turn? Perhaps you are finding that issues from your past that you thought you had dealt with are resurfacing?

I work with people whose lives have taken an unexpected turn through experiences that they feel have changed them or impacted how they are managing their lives. This could be through a bereavement, difficulty or end of a significant relationship or friendship, a change or redundancy at work, estranged family relationships, fertility issues, loss or change in their health or physical abilities or trauma through abuse.

I can help you rebuild your relationship with yourself, and help you understand why you are feeling this way. I can help you nurture a more compassionate understanding of what you're going through and we can work on ways on managing difficult feelings, building coping strategies and get some peace from what you have been through. We can explore why - why this happened, why you feel like this, why you may feel like you did something to cause this.

My aim is to provide you with compassionate understanding and acknowledgement of what has led you to therapy. Any goals or changes you wish to reach through therapy will be discussed and worked towards collaboratively. Therapy doesn't offer advice but I will offer alternative perspectives and approaches to situations that may be repetitive for you. Our relationship will be instrumental in growth and change through therapy as often key relationships in our lives are replicated in the therapeutic space, which can be transformative.

Over the last 20 years my experience as a psychotherapist/counsellor has enabled me to work in a variety of settings, including Primary Care and Community based counselling services. I am a UKCP accredited Integrative Psychotherapist and an EMDR therapist.

‘This member has completed UKCP Covid-19 Online Working Guidance’

I work with

  • Individuals
  • Private healthcare referrals

Special Interests

Like all UKCP registered psychotherapists and psychotherapeutic counsellors I can work with a wide range of issues, but here are some areas in which I have a special interest or additional experience.

Sometimes a bereavement or loss can make you feel that you are not able to be yourself because of other people's expectations of you, maybe some time has passed and people expect you to be who you once were, or expect you to be 'okay'. Sometimes people feel a lot of pressure and focus on the things that they think they "should" or "shouldn't" be doing, such as putting everyone else's needs before their own, or not allowing themselves to acknowledge their own feelings. It's not uncommon to struggle with adjusting to life after loss, if we were working together, I would help you to understand where those expectations and pressures are coming from and how to let them go. I work with all kinds of bereavement and loss but I have a particular interest in working with suicide bereavement, and adults bereaved in childhood. Suicide bereavement and childhood bereavement can be so different in many ways but they sometimes share a sense of isolation and the experience of not being talked about which has it's own impact on grief.
How do you recognise what is important to you when it comes to culture? Maybe your parents grew up in a different country to you and you have maintained many cultural traditions, maybe some of the cultural norms that you're used to you don't agree with and want to change. Maybe you want to be able to blend cultures and are not sure what this looks like. If you are finding that there are issues around culture that you're struggling with that affect your mood, your relationships or your sense of identity it may help to explore this,
Infertility is a unique kind of loss that isn't always recognised. Often people struggling with infertility are offered suggestions of how they can create a family ("you can always adopt") or are told stories of people who struggled to conceive who then went on to have a baby naturally with no problems. Although well meaning, these examples can make people struggling with infertility to feel even more isolated. There are lots of steps on the path through infertility. Whether you are right at the start of your journey when you have just discovered there are issues, part way along where you may be starting treatment or further along where your options may be limited I can support you. There is a lot of grief to process during infertility, and sometimes the grief process on this path can be complicated. I also work with Secondary Infertility, which has a different set of issues to Primary Infertility. You may also find that if you are able to have a baby you are still affected by what you've been through.
Whether you're new to practicing or a seasoned therapist, it's important to know what you need from supervision and how it can help you with your clinical practice. How we would work together would depend on your needs, there may be some sessions where you want some more practical support around setting up or growing your practice and other sessions where you have some cases that you need more reflection with. I may offer you suggestions on books or research, or I may ask you what has impacted you about a particular case. We may discuss what interventions or strategies you used in session, and explore the therapy process and your relationship with the client. I like to work collaboratively with my supervisees to encourage and support them in their growth whilst maintaining ethical guidelines. I offer one to one and group supervision from an integrative perspective.
Sometimes life doesn't turn out the way we planned. If this happens it can make us question so many things about ourselves, our lives and the people around us. This is a normal reaction but it can feel overwhelming and out of control if we're not prepared or a situation occurs unexpectedly. I would work with you to help you find a way of processing and acknowledging this important part of your life. I would support you during this phase of adjustment in dealing with change to find a better relationship with yourself and those around you. I would help you rebuild your confidence and trust in yourself and the world. You may have experienced a life changing event that still impacts you. If you are experiencing flashbacks, recurrent nightmares, or anxiety we may use EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing) as part of therapy.

Types of Therapies Offered

  • Integrative Psychotherapist

What I can help with

  • Bereavement
  • Cultural Issues
  • Depression
  • Identity Problems
  • Infertility
  • Post-Traumatic Stress
  • Private Practice Issues
  • Relationships
  • Suicide
  • Supervision
  • Telephone Counselling
  • Training
  • Trauma
  • Workplace Counselling

Types of sessions

  • Face to Face - Long Term
  • Face to Face - Short Term
  • Online Therapy

Bexleyheath Office

Avenues
327 Broadway
Bexleyheath DA6 8DT
UK

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Cost:

Fee: £65 per 50 minute session for individual sessions. £100 per 90 minute EMDR session.

Concession:

Some concessions available, please contact to discuss your needs.

UKCP College

  • Humanistic and Integrative Psychotherapy College (HIPC)
Sehar Khan

Sehar Khan

Bexleyheath DA6

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