Abi Spence, UKCP Accredited Psychotherapist

Abi Spence

York YO31
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Abi Spence, UKCP Accredited Psychotherapist

Abi Spence

York YO31
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My Approach

My way of working is based on an integrative training, which means I call on various modalities, for example attachment theory (how you formulate and experience relationships), person-centred (you are the expert on yourself; I help draw out this information) and relational (what’s happening between us here and now.)

My experience of psychotherapy began when I sought therapy myself. I found it to be life-changing. I wanted to create for others what I had received: space, time and generous, attentive focus on whatever I needed to bring. Whatever might have brought you to this point, I provide a safe, non-judgemental and confidential space separate from your family and social group, in which to explore whatever you want to bring. I offer short term work (6-12 sessions) longer term (6 months to a year or longer) I work online and in-person, in a therapy room setting and walk and talk therapy in nature.

Each clients' needs are unique, and I am therefore led by you; your lived experience of the world and your sense of place within it. For 50 minutes, one day a week, you can be present and alive to your thoughts, feelings, memories and sensations in a way that life may prevent you from being.

About Me

I work with adults (18+) on a one-to-one basis to assist you to process, respond to or engage with whatever might be preventing you from living your life to its fullest and happiest. As well as anxiety, depression, low self esteem, burn-out and complex trauma, my specialisms include

Boarding school childhoods- Learn more about this here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dG3rY9TohTk
Fertility concerns such as IVF and miscarriage
Family and sibling relationships
GSRD (Gender, Sexual and Relationship Diversity) issues
Minority stress (experienced by those who do not identify as white, cis, heterosexual, or neuro-typical)

There are many reasons why you might be thinking about trying therapy. It could be experiences from your childhood or more recent history which have been left unresolved, leading to anxiety, depression or toxic cycles of behaviour. It might be what you are experiencing in the here and now; we are living in a time of great uncertainty, change and responsibility, with more access to information and more choice than ever before. This, combined with the pressure created by social media to appear happy and successful, can feel overwhelming.

Before undertaking my psychotherapy training, I worked in pressured, results-based environments. I understand what it's like to have to manage multiple responsibilities, attempt to meet the expectations of others and feel overwhelmed.

By giving yourself the opportunity to examine your fears, motivations and actions with the help of a psychotherapist, I believe it is possible to gain clarity and understanding which can be transformative.

I work with

  • Individuals

Special Interests

Like all UKCP registered psychotherapists and psychotherapeutic counsellors I can work with a wide range of issues, but here are some areas in which I have a special interest or additional experience.

Anxiety can be specific (post partum depression and hypervigilance, death, health) or general dis-ease. In whatever way you might experience anxiety, it can severely impact the way you are able to appreciate and enjoy life. Therapy gives you the opportunity to explore what is creating the anxious feelings, for example: if or how your history might be being revisited in your present.
Our family is our first environment. Even before we have memories, as babies we were already navigating our family system, putting in place a pattern of connection-seeking that stays with us throughout the life span, and informs so much of who we are in relationship. Whatever your experience of family has been; happy, connected, cut short, traumatic, abusive, neglectful, a space to explore parental and sibling bonds can add clarity and understanding as those (and other) relationships evolve.
As a crucial part of our intersectionality (the intellectual framework for understanding how various aspects of individual identity interact) gender, either problematic gender norms and socio-cultural expectations, or issues arising for those who identify as a gender which differs from their assigned sex, can contribute to anxiety, depression, minority stress and even feelings of suicidality. Therapy can provide a safe space to explore your gender and work towards inhabiting it authentically.
There is deep (and often secret) pain, longing, envy and shame in the struggle to create or grow a family. Whether you are going through fertility treatment, have experienced the intense grief of miscarriage or the loss of the future you assumed you were going to have, psychotherapy can provide another place to explore complex experiences and feelings that often struggle for an outlet in conversations with family and friends.
What is traumatic is deeply personal; abuse, neglect, discrimination, intergenerational trauma (family history) or any event where you feel intense fear, threat, humiliation, rejection, powerlessness or invalidation. Sometimes we can react in a traumatised way without fully knowing what caused the reaction. Aspects of our lives which we would prefer to bury and forget can emerge in ways that become problematic. In therapy, we work towards understanding the affect of original trauma, how it impacts our present, and turn "reactions" into responses.

Types of Therapies Offered

  • Integrative Psychotherapist

What I can help with

  • Abuse
  • Anxiety
  • Bereavement
  • Bullying
  • Cultural Issues
  • Depression
  • Divorce
  • Domestic Violence
  • Employment Difficulties
  • Family
  • Gender
  • Identity Problems
  • Infertility
  • Online Counselling
  • Parents
  • Physical Abuse
  • Race Issues
  • Relationships
  • Separation
  • Sexual Abuse
  • Sexuality
  • Stress
  • Transgender
  • Trauma

Types of sessions

  • Face to Face - Long Term
  • Face to Face - Short Term
  • Online Therapy

York Office

Room 4
Unit 2
Miller's Yard
York YO31 7EB
United Kingdom (UK)

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Cost:

65.00 per session (online and in person)

York Office

Hallgarth
Harome
York YO62 5JF
UK

  Wheelchair accessible View Map

Cost:

£65.00 (online, in person and outdoor walk and talk sessions)

UKCP College

  • Humanistic and Integrative Psychotherapy College (HIPC)
Abi Spence

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York YO31

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